THE SKINNY ON
MISERABLE.
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| ( My fat belly.)
When
did my flat belly develop a roll? When did my tiny waist grow?
I leaned over my desk in the den as I
typed and glanced into the mirror on the closet door. I saw me staring back at
my body. I don’t like to look at me without warning and time to pose.
I didn’t like what I saw.
There was a roll of fat – a wheel
barrel tire sized bulge in the middle of my body. Ugh.
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| (Wheelbarrow tire,) |
It wasn’t my idea to have a mirror this
large in the room. We inherited it when we bought the house. I wondered how the
mirror would look if I painted it taupe or gray to match the walls. Mirrors
were supposed to make a small room look bigger. I didn’t care about the room.
This mirror made my body look bigger so it had to go. My six-pack was now large
enough to pack a twelve-pack of brew.
Hmmm. Maybe it wasn’t a roll of fat I
was looking at. I stopped slouching, stretched the waistband of my jeans over
my stomach, and yanked my shirt smooth. Nope. Didn’t help much. Maybe my shirt
shrunk. Yup. That must be it. My shirt was too small. Mostly, I washed the
clothes we threw in our hamper but sometimes, my husband did. I put all the
delicates on an easy wash cycle, chose cool water, and the lowest dial for the
dryer. Randy shoved them all in to get them done, hot or cold. Yeah, maybe that
was the problem.
I try and try to be thin, like I used
to be, when I was sixteen. I watch every forkful of food as I shove it into my
mouth, keep track of my steps as I move from the chair to the couch, and vow to
stop at the halfway mark whenever I dig into a new tub of my favorite Tillamook
ice cream. Actually, I try to get in 20
or more miles of walking, hiking and bicycling every week but it doesn’t help.
Before I showered, I closed the window
blinds because I didn’t want to scare the neighbor’s dog. Then I stripped naked and peed because, you
know, ounces add up to pounds. The results were always the same: I didn’t lose
any weight. Worse, the dimples in cellulite looked like they were laughing at
me.
I don’t think the problem is my
thyroid. I take synthroid almost every day to try to kick my Hashimoto’s
thyroiditis disease in the throat. I more or less stick to an anti-inflammatory
diet. Hashimoto’s is an autoimmune disorder that almost killed my thyroid. It
doesn’t make enough hormones for my body’s needs to regulate my heart rate or
how slowly my body uses calories from the foods I eat. I tried the Atkins diet,
the Nutrisystem diet, a 1300 calorie diet, and now a white food diet. I don’t
eat anything white: white potatoes, white sugar, white rice, white flour. You
would think this might make me look less white but it doesn’t. I still look
mostly white with a tan.
The real problem is that I’m not
miserable enough.
When I’m stressed, I can’t eat. Stress can
induce my symptoms of PTSD. This keeps my heart pounding with panic, makes me
nauseated, exacerbates my migraines, gives me stabbing pain, toxifies my body
and mind, and throws off the functioning of my poor thyroid.
I’m five foot seven or eight, depending
on who measures me. As an adult, my weight has fluctuated between 118 pounds
and 165 in-between pregnancies.
Pregnancy is another situation altogether and doesn’t count. I’ve been
too skinny - when my chest was more ribs than breasts, when my cheekbones were
chiseled and gaunt, and my knees looked like knobs. Okay. I don’t want to look
that skinny again. For my age, I guess I look pretty fine.
I survived and was able to break the
cycle of abuse and with one exception, I have been able to forgive those who
caused me grief.
I’m in love with my family, friends,
and life. I live in joy and peace now.
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As Long As I Breathe is dedicated to;
survivors of emotional, physical, spiritual,
or sexual abuse,
those who have had to bury a murdered child,
former members of a misogynistic religious cult,
children born with Cornelia de Lange Syndrome,
and anyone who was falsely accused of a crime.
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As Long As I Breathe is dedicated to;
survivors of emotional, physical, spiritual,
or sexual abuse,
those who have had to bury a murdered child,
former members of a misogynistic religious cult,
children born with Cornelia de Lange Syndrome,
and anyone who was falsely accused of a crime.
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Joyce A Lefler is the author of
From Miracle to Murder: Justice for Adam.
She is a facilitator for Parents of Murdered Children,
a bereavement counselor, registered nurse,
and an advocate against abuse.
From Miracle to Murder: Justice for Adam.
She is a facilitator for Parents of Murdered Children,
a bereavement counselor, registered nurse,
and an advocate against abuse.
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